MONEY By Staff Curator / September 15, 2016 Would a difference in financial belief systems be a deal breaker for you? by VERED DELEEUW (moneyning.com) – If you’re a romantic at heart, if you believe that choosing a life partner isn’t something you think about and plan for but something that just happens, if you believe in “love at first sight” and in “happily ever after,” then I suspect you will strongly object to this article. I am going to argue here that when choosing a life partner, you should make sure their financial behavior is acceptable and that their financial belief system is compatible with yours. If you identify issues, you should address them prior to committing, and if you realize that the gap between your belief systems cannot be bridged, you should consider letting go of the relationship. The Importance of Compatibility When my then-boyfriend asked me to marry him, years ago, I said “yes,” and I felt that I had made the right decision, not just because I was in love with him and found him attractive, or because he was my best friend, but also because I knew we were compatible. We were compatible on many levels, including our financial belief system. It was important to me to marry a man who shared my core belief system. I knew that it was possible to have a loving, long-lasting relationship with someone who’s very different than you are, but I also knew that those relationships can have a lot of friction. I also knew that money issues are one of the topics couples argue about the most. Take, for example, a relationship where one of the partners is frugal and the other is a shopaholic. I just can’t imagine being in such a relationship. It seems obvious that to survive long-term, the partners to this relationship would have to openly discuss the issue and find middle ground. Bringing Up The Subject Even if you agree that financial behavior of a future partner matters, and even if you’re certain you have identified issues with your partners’ behavior that could cause future friction and arguments, how do you approach the subject with them? This is a delicate topic, but I hate to think that some people avoid bringing it up just because they feel uncomfortable doing so. It’s a lot like the topic of children – if you feel strongly about having or not having kids, will you marry someone without bringing up the topic first and finding out how they feel about it? As much as discussing finances might feel uncomfortable, or unromantic, it is crucial to address issues before committing, and the best way to do that is to be as straightforward as… Read the complete article here.